Giving Up the Blame Game

Posted by Jana Groscost Matthews | Filed under Affirmations, Ascension, DNA Healing, Empowerment, Inner Alchemy, Jana Matthews, Law of Attraction, Manifesting, New Moon Manifesting, Self Healing, Transformation

We live in a time where few people take responsibility for what is going on with their life. It’s easier to blame someone else for why things are not working out. However, when we blame others we also dis-empower ourselves. We give power to the person we blame. Blame throws us into the mucky waters of negativity. It lowers our vibration and self-worth. With blame come resentment, judgment, and other lower vibrating emotions.

Stop for a moment and think who you are blaming for the circumstances in your life right now. Maybe your mother was critical. Do you blame her for your depression or inability to succeed? Perhaps your ex-husband left you penniless. Do you blame him for your current economic situation? We all have experiences to help us heal karmic contracts and learn compassion. Stop allowing other people to control your emotions and success by giving up the blame game!

Within each of us lies a “shadow side.” It is often denied, ignored, and remains deeply hidden. We often deny it because we want to feel good about ourselves. In fact, we avoid situations and people that trigger it so we feel good. But this doesn’t help us grow. The shadow side lies hidden. When it is triggered, people panic.

By denying the shadow side we live superficially; a state of complacency, with little depth to life. Complacency is a belief that one is superior, a sense of smugness, or self-righteousness. Each of these words describes the ego versus supporting the soul. And when we avoid healing our shadow side, the Universe shakes things up by sending us teachers to shine light on the darkness that still need to be resolved.

Our teachers show up as lovers, friends, family members, bosses, co-workers, and anyone else that triggers the “scary” darkness. The ego in a self-preservation attempt avoids the reflection of the teacher by blaming them for the emotions. But they are here to show us what still needs to be resolved so we may truly experience self-love, self-compassion, and compassion for others. As the light shines upon the darkness, we have a choice to fight, flee, or learn the lesson. When we consciously choose to learn the lesson we learn to love ourselves in spite of our flaws and annoying traits. And once this happens we can experience true love and compassion for others.

When you learn to move beyond blame, you see your teachers as an opportunity to understand yourself more deeply and heal emotional wounds that inhibit you from attracting what you want. These people are in your life for a reason. They show you the things that need attention and what needs to change.

Taking responsibility for your life is empowering. We have all been given the wisdom to know what is necessary to heal ourselves. But in an effort to avoid pain we have shut down the connection with the Inner Wisdom. As people show up and trigger your emotions look at them from a different perspective. They are the messages from within that you are avoiding.

Instead of blaming them, choose to respond differently:

Notice when emotions are being triggered
Write down the emotions you feel
Take a few moments of quiet time to feel the emotions within your body
Ask for assistance from your Inner Wisdom for direction on releasing/healing them
Listen for guidance for your path
Write down your first impression (without discounting or denying it)
Discern for additional clarity – if still confused
Co-create your life
Follow your heart
Believe in yourself
Trust yourself and your Inner Voice

Stop playing the blame game! It becomes a vicious vortex where nobody wins. It’s time to heal. It’s time to make yourself happy and follow your dreams. It’s time to be true to yourself and create your own happiness!

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