Expectations
Posted by Jana Groscost Matthews | Filed under Manifesting
“See that any time you feel pained or defeated, it is only because you insist on clinging to what doesn’t work. Dare to let go and you won’t lose a thing except for a punishing idea.”
Guy Finley – author and speaker
It is so easy to feel defeated when something doesn’t work out the way we expect. Many may feel like never trying because of the possibility of defeat. But, when we learn to let go of the our expectations of the outcome, and open to many possible outcomes then the feelings of defeat disappear.
We have all been subjected to expectations. Our parents, friends, teachers, bosses, co-workers, ourselves, and others often expect us to behave in a certain way. When someone doesn’t act according to expectations often guilt or shame is used to control the behavior. In turn, we subject similar expectations on others and ourselves. It’s a vicious cycle!
Since the pattern was established during childhood, it continues, until we consciously choose to change it. Our world is in a state of transition. The old ways of doing things no longer works. For many, change is very difficult. We have a choice to resist change or embrace it. One may feel defeated when losing a job, while another may feel new opportunities open up. It depends upon the person’s willingness to let go of their expectations.
Questions to Ponder:
1. Am I willing to let go of what doesn’t work?
2. If not, why not?
Since the New Moon begins on Sunday, February 14th, it’s a great time to try something new. For the next 21 days practice letting go of your expectations. Remind yourself daily to have “no expectations.” See if you notice all the times throughout your day you have expectations of yourself and others. Keep a small notebook and jot down the expectations you had throughout the day. After the 21 days, what has changed as a result of letting go of your expectations?
To prepare for the manifesting, write down a list of goals or intentions you want to attract or issues you want to release during the lunar cycle. After the cycle is over, review your old list crossing off goals achieved and file it, then begin a new list for the new cycle. To maintain balance in your life, look at goals on several different levels including financial, spiritual, mental, emotional, and physically.